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Funeral Etiquette

The accepted customs of dress and behavior in a funeral have changed over time, but courtesy never goes out of style. Here’s what we’d like you to know about funeral etiquette.

Making the Most of a Difficult Time

It’s important to know what religious, ethnic or personal considerations you need to take into account. And it’s also important to be respectful of the emotions of close family members.

Here are a few things expected of you:

• Offer an expression of sympathy.
• Sometimes we are at a loss for words when encountering something as final as death. Simply being present with two listening ears and a hug when appropriate is the simplest and best  thing you can do.  Be respectful when sharing a treasured story that you remember about the deceased if you think it would be appreciated by the family.
• Find out the dress code.
• In some cases the deceased or the family has specified a dress code, such as something similar to the deceased’s common dress. In the absence of such requests dress neatly and conservatively.
• Give a gift.
• a gift of  flowers, a donation to a charity or a commitment of service to the family at a later date are symbols that the family is in your thoughts.  In many cases a memorial gift is sent when you can not be present with the family at the visitation or service; in that way it becomes your representative at the funeral, and the reminder that you care ; as always, "it's the thought that counts." Always make sure to provide the family with a signed card, so they know what gift was given, and by whom.
• Sign the register book.
• It is helpful for the family to sign your name, and leave your address.  Many times that family likes to contact the visitors following the funeral with an acknowledgement, or to follow up on a conversations that were shared at the service or visitation.  Another helpful piece of information such as  your relationship to the deceased: co-worker, classmate, for example helps family place who you are in future.
• Keep in touch.
• It's sometimes awkward for you to do so, but for most people the grieving doesn't end with a funeral.  A call, or a note in the future is always appreciated by the durviving family members.

But, What Shouldn't You Do?

• Don't feel that you have to stay.
• If you make a visit during calling hours there's no reason your stay has to be a lengthy one.
• Don't be afraid to laugh.
• Remembering their loved one can mean sharing a treasured memory. TMost families appreciate conversation about the deceased in a happy, positive tone.
• Don't feel you have to view the deceased if there is an open casket.
• Many people find the ability to physically say goodbye to the deceased very helpful, however some visitors may not feel comfortable.  you are welcome to to do what is comfortable to you.
• Don't allow your children to be a disturbance.
• If you feel they might be, then leave them with a sitter. But, if the deceased meant something to them, it's a good idea to invite them to share in the experience.
• Don't leave your cell phone on.
• Switch it off before entering the funeral home, or better yet, leave it in the car. All too often, we see people checking their cell phones for messages during the services.
• Don't neglect to step into a receiving line.
• Simply share your smile, offer up your own name and how you knew the deceased, and a short remembrance.
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• Remember to continue to offer support and love to the bereaved. The months following a loss are a time when grieving friends and relatives need you most. Don’t hesitate to call or let them know they are still in your thoughts.

We are Here to Help

If you have special concerns about an upcoming funeral or memorial service either at Pray Funeral Home, or at any other funeral home, don’t hesitate to call us.  We're here to provide the answers you're looking for. Call us at (888) 825-8527.